Lack of boundaries invites lack of respect. ~Anonymous
Setting boundaries can be hard but it’s so necessary in order to place respect around your name , as well as placing respect around your mental state. My relationship with Christ started when I was 26 but I didn’t start setting boundaries until I was around 29|30 years old. After a while you get tired of people telling you about yourself. Or trying to interject their opinions about what is right for you just because it works for them. Dealing with people in general can be hectic when you don’t know 1. How to love yourself and 2. Don’t know your values.
My biggest shift started when I got into a small altercation with another church member. I remember that day like it happened yesterday. Bless her soul, because I love her so much but during that time she responded out of her flesh. In return I responded back out of my flesh. Looking back over the whole situation if I had known my worth I would have handled that whole ordeal differently. Unfortunately I was still growing and when she came storming into that room, demanding that I come back to speak with her. I let it be known that my “NO” was very strong. That was the beginning of my “setting boundaries” journey.
That was the beginning of my “setting boundaries” journey.
NO. Is a complete sentence. ~Ann Lamott
No, you will not talk to me like I’m one of your children. I remember when I didn’t move everybody was looking at me like “Tanesha, so you’re not going to go with her?” Um, no because I’m doing something and she can wait. Whew, she did not like that and she let the whole room know that she was an Elder and she would not be disrespected. In that moment I found my voice. An elder you say? okay and what am I chop suey? Just because I don’t have a title (at the time I wasn’t a minister just yet) doesn’t mean I’m less of a servant.
It was like a light bulb went off and from that moment I realized I would never allow another human being treat me less than my worth.
So here at colorSHEpretty we are super glad you are here because you are not only owning it but you’re showing that you’re ready to take your life to the next level. The sole purpose is to grow in your worth, value, and identity in Christ. In order to grow in these areas we must start at the basics and start loving on ourselves. Many of us deal with mental health issues because we lack in knowing how to love ourselves. So you ask the question, “How do I start loving myself?”
Understand that God created us all in his image. So if we serve a loving God then we are loved.
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” – Genesis 1:27, KJV
In order to not make this post any longer, I’ll be starting a book club soon called “colors of her voice” on “how to grow in your self love.” The book club will be starting in the next two weeks so please stay tune to our IG stories for more information. In the meantime I would love for you ladies to go ahead and purchase the book “Spoken For.” We will be starting in the next two weeks.