Friendships come and go! Let’s be honest friendships can hard to maintain. These days most people, I won’t say all (there are still some really great genuine honest people in the world) are super sensitive and mean when it comes to building relationships. Trust, I have been a loner my whole life, although I’ve been surrounded by incredible people it hasn’t always been easy maintaining fruitful relationships.
There are still some really great genuine honest people in the world.
I’m delighted to share with you “3 steps to building a community keeping it healthy.” Since moving to Charlotte, NC I have spent 6 months in a new state and city alone. Of course I had my husband but we all desire to have our share of girlfriends. My husband is my best friend indeed but I can’t express everything to him and get the reaction I need when I’m sharing something juicy. Every woman needs a group of ladies in their life to help build, encourage, motivate, inspire, pray with, and overall speak life into them.
Know Your Worth
When you know your worth, you attract the right people for you. So many people complain about the people that let them down or the people that constantly disappoint them. That only happens when you don’t know you’re worth. When you don’t understand your identity then you will attract the same people, and the same environment all the time. I’ve never had a bad environment of people surrounding me but I never had a group of people around me that was for me. Being a loner, I have found it hard making genuine connections because I was use to being to myself. It’s taken awhile but learning my worth has allowed for a better understanding of what I want and like in a friend. This of course took time, it wasn’t a lesson learned overnight.
Being a loner, I have found it hard making genuine connections because I was use to being to myself.
Learning my worth took time because I had to break down my personality.
What do I like and don’t like?
What are my pet peeves?
What is it about people that I enjoy?
What is it about people that I don’t enjoy?
Asking yourself personal questions allows for you to start understanding your true self. If you believe yourself to be one way then that’s what you will attract. Negativity will attract negative people. Being positive will attract positive people. Taking the time to really evaluate all areas of your life will help narrow down what you will and will not accept in a friendship aka community.
Know Your Value
“Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t respect, appreciate, and value you. Spend your life with people who make you smile, laugh, and feel loved.”
― Roy T. Bennett
One of the hardest things to recover from is the diminishing of your value. There was a time where I felt the hurt and pain of my character being bullied. It took awhile to rebuild but when I got it back to it’s worth, I made sure to take better care of it. People come into our lives for many different reasons. Understanding your value is like understanding the quality of what you bring to the table. However your community should be filled with valuable qualities. Everyone should bring something to the table. You all should have at least one thing in common but also very different in so many ways. I appreciate the value I have placed within and around my heart. It often hurts when you have to change your focus around but the reward in the end grants tons of peace and happiness.
Your heart deserves to be happy.
Keep it simple and have fun. No rocket science, just pure fun. Laughter triggers something within your mental space that bring upon joy. Your community should be a space where not only can you cry but you can laugh hard as well.
I’ve taken the necessary time to analyze my space. For instance I’ve analyzed what is important and what is not important. You have the power to create and make your environment healthy. To make your environment happy and full of fun. Here’s a challenge, take the necessary time out to evaluate your surroundings. Really pinpoint what makes you happy to what makes you sad. You deserve the best.